Falling In Hate

Written by my sister, Yui Seta. So check it out!

 

By now, you must know what “falling in love” is, right? It’s that wonderful feeling of trusting someone so wholly that you are willing to give up everything to that person. Having nothing to give to your loved one but…uh, love. That sort of thing. With the movies and media, we all know what falling love is.

 

So what the heck is “falling in hate”?

 

Falling in hate has no clear definition. None. Not even if you look up in the dictionary, in the thesaurus, or in any book that provides meanings to terms, phrases and words. You will have a better chance of finding a definition in romance novels. Yes, romance novels, the classic trashy books full of inanity. However,  even the definition in there may vary. Usually, they use the term “falling in hate” for their own purposes. For example: The heroine hates her love interest in the first part of the book, and in the middle and last parts, she is madly in love with him.

 

For me, that is not falling in hate. Far from it. What’s the point of a person falling in hate if they’re going to fall in love anyway? Let me enlighten you on what this very strong, very negative and very misunderstood emotion is.

 

As you might have guessed, falling in hate is the opposite of falling in love—you hate a person and it will irrevocably stay that way. It is the first thing you feel when you see something that you truly, utterly dislike. It is what you feel when your ugly, dull-witted suitor pays you a visit again after dropping so many obvious hints (that sounds contradictory, doesn’t it) that you just don’t like him—and that you never will. Or when you see lecherous men staring at you. It is what you feel when your pompous old aunt runs up to you, kisses you wetly on the cheek and the first thing she says is, “Naku! Tumaba ka na!” (My golly! You’ve gained weight!).

 

Falling in hate does not have to be remotely connected to falling in love. Han Solo and Princess Leia did not fall in hate before falling in love—they were just denying the fact that they were attracted to each other. However, like love at first sight, or at least, the very idea of love at first sight, it is very strong and often irrational. Like love, it is a fun thing to feel, and the guilty emotions that come with it just make the whole thing better.

 

Unlike passive hatred, where you only have a fixed degree of antipathy towards a certain person, falling in hate means falling deeper into that feeling. If falling in love can go deeper, falling in hate can also go deeper, and give to it a whole new meaning along the way. It ranges from annoyance, to dislike, to absolute loathing. It can also go the other way, but only for a few notches. You cannot get rid of the antagonistic feelings against the person. It affects you, it is constantly in your mind, especially when the one you dislike is in the same room as you are, makes your stomach squirm and turn inside out—in disgust, I mean.

 

I actually like the feeling of falling in hate. It makes my heart pound, my hands sweaty, my brain spin—because I just want to stomp the life out of the person I am falling in hate with.

 

Falling in hate also makes you think. Just what do you hate about that person you are “in hate” with? It can actually help you develop your skills in reviewing people.

 

So, are you falling in hate? Think about it: the signs, the symptoms, the description. You might be having that feeling right now.